Someone is always hurt in a breakup and it’s almost always hard to find the path to move forward.

When you can forgive, and end the shouting, you can repair your relationship, mend your heart and win your ex back.

Deciding how to get your ex back is going to involve learning humility for the both of you. Being selfish is what got your relationship in trouble at the beginning. You decided that what you wanted was more important than what you two had as a couple.

People do make mistakes. It is true that some mistakes are too big to overcome but most mistakes that people make in relationships are trivial. They are also made in the heat of the moment and often times can be exaggerated. Realize that it is easy for someone to say or do the wrong thing when they aren’t thinking clearly.

If you have had the wrong thing said or done to you, think of the events surrounding what did happen. What was going on around that time that made things as bad as what it got? Was there something going on in one of your lives outside of the relationship that brought unnecessary strain? If you can recognize what it was you have a chance to learn how to get your ex back.

If you had your pride and feelings hurt by the actions of another, can you forgive them? Can you suck back in your pride and realize that it was a mistake and what you had was greater than the incidents that drove you apart? Can you be willing to forgive it and let it go? You will have to learn how to do this if you want to know how to get your ex back.

If you hurt someone dear to you, you need to suck back in your pride as well. Realize that you made a mistake. Own it and take responsibility for your actions. If it is important to you to know how to get back your ex then you have to realize that there are things that you are going to have to correct in the way that you handle situations. If there is some problem or mistake that you keep making, get counseling or some kind of help. Don’t expect that you can continue to do the same thing over and over and expect different results.

Be able to approach each other with humility, not holding yourself up over the other person. Stop thinking that you are too big to come back and say, “I’m sorry.” When someone says to you that they are sorry don’t hold it over them and say, “Yeah, you should be.” Decide that what you have as a couple is more important than the problems that came and decide to work together as a team to overcome them. If you do this then you have found how to get your ex back.

This topic and more is discussed in the Magic of Making Up ebook. Learn the right and wrong things to do to get your ex back here

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