You’ve been in a relationship for a while, a couple years or more, and then broken up with the guy.
After a short time you’ve started talking with each other but you realize that he just won’t change.
The reasons for the breakup are valid and you’re certain that you were right.

Now that you’re talking about things the conversation returns to an intimate level and he suggests hanging out once in a while, getting together to share intimacy again, something you both miss. That part of the relationship was great.

Don’t do it.

Taking a step backward in a relationship going from the intimate of what you had to a relationship that’s going to be just about sex between the both of you will not change him but will certainly degrade yourself.
As you view your future, knowing that you have to start over from scratch with someone else. It’s easy to think that just getting together for sex with no connection to the previous relationship will make life easier for you. It won’t.

After breakup it’s a whole new world again. You are starting over, some friends will hang out with you someone hang out with your ex, it can seem like a harsh world.

Exchanging the true intimacy you had in your relationship after breakup with just having sex won’t fix anything. And it certainly won’t help you move on.

You may even seem to be the right thing to do to help you get past the breakup. The reasons for the breakup may even seem a little distant once the loneliness is started to set in.

You have to consider that sex is part of the relationship and if the relationship was broken. Then returning to just relive a part of it is wrong.

After a breakup it may be possible to start over, but starting over takes you to the first square of the relationship game, you don’t start in the middle.

How To Start A Fresh, New Day

Before you even begin you have to ask yourself why you want it to be fixed? if you are doing it because you know “it will be different this time”, then it may be a good idea to re-think your position

Many couples split because of one thing: distrust. Fixing a broken relationship requires honesty from this point forward. You have to be honest about who you are, who your mate is and what being together means to you. One point related to honesty is that you can’t change other people. You can change yourself, but don’t fool yourself thinking things will be better after you change your significant other.

Be careful that you don’t lay it on too thick. You may want to show how enthusiastic you are about mending things, but be careful that you don’t cross the line into overdoing it. Most people don’t respond well to being overwhelmed, and are likely to pull back the more you push. Even if that isn’t your intention, you have to think about how you’re being perceived. Understand that no matter how much you want to fix things, it takes two people to make it work. If your ex isn’t ready to mend things, you have to be ready to give them more time and space.

Now that you understand what to avoid, you will need an action plan before you can start fixing a broken relationship. Here are the three steps you need to take to set things right, and to keep them that way.

Identify: Before you can do anything, you need to know what’s wrong. Take a look at the areas in your relationship that you would like to be better. This could be you, your mate, or the relationship itself. While you can only change yourself, being aware

Fix: Once you know where improvement is needed, it’s time to solve the problem. This may require any different number of approaches. Chances are you won’t get it right the first time, but keep trying until you are able to resolve the issue that’s putting a strain on your relationship.

Maintain: No relationship is perfect. Be on constant alert for potential problem spots and take care of them as soon as possible. It is much easier to fix things sooner rather than later. Things will always pop up that need your and your better half’s attention.

You can see that fixing a broken relationship may not always be the best thing to do, it’s never that easy, but if you want to do it, it is possible to be a happier couple. Just follow the tips mentioned above and you will see how good things can be.

This topic and more is discussed in the Magic of Making Up ebook. Learn the right and wrong things to do to get your ex back here