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October 19th, 2010Clean Breakups, Other Stuff, Things To Do“I feel like dying because my boyfriend dumped me!”
It isn’t the end of the world and it isn’t even close. Even though it hurts, it isn’t going to kill you.
This is something that you can and will get over. It will take some work, some help, some readjusting in the way you think, and some time. Be sure that just because you are upset that “my boyfriend dumped me” doesn’t mean that life stops, life goes on. Be ready for it.
Getting past the idea that “my boyfriend dumped me” isn’t going to be easy but it also isn’t going to be impossible.
You are going to have to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move along. The alternative means that you will be stuck wallowing in your own misery. If that is no life that you want to have then do what it takes to get out of it. It takes work to climb back out of the pit but the work is worth it.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help but be careful where it is that you ask for it.
If you are battling depression because of it, seek professional help. This doesn’t mean that you are going crazy, depression is something that many people deal with so don’t worry about people judging you. Do try to beat it, though.
It may be, though, that you have good friends or family that can help you out while you are trying to deal with that fact that “my boyfriend dumped me.”
Be careful to not lay too much on these people, though, and when you ask for advice, follow it. If you are constantly complaining about your life and the situation but aren’t following up on what advice is given, they are going to reach a point that you don’t want. They are going to get tired of you and cut you off or seriously consider it.
You should also re-frame the way you look at the situation.
Try looking at it from a different angle or perspective. While you may see it as the end of the world, from another person’s perspective, it may not be. Try to find that other person’s perspective. Try to see what good it is that you have to offer someone. What are your best qualities? For sure there is going to be someone out there who will appreciate them. Wait for them to come along.
While you are waiting, find some way to improve yourself.
Find something that you have long dreamed about doing and throw your life into it. If there is something non-romantic that you have longed to achieve in life, pursue it. Do you want to make yourself better in anyway, now is the time to do it. Try to find someway to use this time and that negative energy you have and do something positive with it.
The end result will be a happier you.
Once you have found that happiness, it will become magnetic and draw in the person that you dream of, the one that makes you smile and makes you feel like you belong. It will make you look back on this dark time in your life when you were crying because “my boyfriend dumped me” and see it as one of the best things that ever happened to you.
This topic and more is discussed in the Magic of Making Up ebook. Learn the right and wrong things to do to get your ex back here
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April 28th, 2010Get Back Together, Things To DoIt’s a common question many women ask at one point or another in their lives: he broke up with me how do I get him back? The good news is that no matter how hopeless it seems you may be able to have your dream guy back with you… if you follow some simple advice.
This advice has helped thousands of people fix the problems in their relationship and get back together with their ex, it can help you too. Some of the tips may seem odd or completely wrong, but they’re not. Just follow the steps and don’t think you can skip any, and you will have a very good chance of having your ex back with you.
Another word of warning, don’t expect this to happen quickly. It will take anywhere from several weeks to several months and I know that while you’re in so much pain it will seem like too long to wait, but if you try to rush it, you will only make you and your ex more miserable. Have faith and follow these steps and you’ll more than likely be happy that you did.
Now is not the time to be available to your ex. It’s one thing to let him know how much you love him when the two of you were together, but now it will just seem creepy. You have got to give him space. I know how hard this can be, you’ll be terrified he might meet someone else, but you can’t be hounding him and expect him to want to have anything to do with you. If you are practically stalking him all you’re going to do is stroke his ego and / or make him mad. Give him space and stay away.
Don’t worry, this time apart will probably go more quickly than you thought because you’ll be busy. Now is the time to assess the type of woman you are. When you take a long look at yourself and the way you act, what things would you like to change? Those are the things you need to concentrate on now. Spend some time trying to become a better person.
One thing you have to remember is that these changes are about you and making yourself better. True, eventually you’re hoping that your ex will notice the changes and decide they want you back, but ultimately you aren’t changing for them, you are changing because you want to improve yourself.
Don’t start dating other guys to make your ex jealous. That is childish and dumb and will most likely kill any chance you have of getting him back. Just spend time with your friends and have fun no matter how hard it is. Live your life and word will get back to him and he’ll be feeling like he’s missing out on something.
These tips are simple but very effective. If you’re willing to give him some space and work on your issues, you’ll have a really good chance of getting your ex back. I hope this answers the question: he broke up with me how do I get him back? Good luck!
This topic and more is discussed in the Magic of Making Up ebook. Learn the right and wrong things to do to get your ex back here
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