alovelink.com » how to get her back http://alovelink.com Break-up Advice & Make-up Advice: Keep Your Relationship! Thu, 29 Jul 2010 10:32:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 Get Your Ex Back http://alovelink.com/2010/03/get-your-ex-back/ http://alovelink.com/2010/03/get-your-ex-back/#comments Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:51:47 +0000 Rob http://alovelink.com/2010/03/get-your-ex-back/ Are you looking for free advice on how to get your ex back? Well, you’re in luck because you can definitely find a lot of it out there on the internet. Almost everyone has gone through a damaged relationship at one point or another and many are eager to share what they did to cope or win back their loved ones. Strategies differ from one person to the next and what works for someone else may not work for you. But there are some common factors that many experts agree on.

First of all, when you have broken up, you need to stay broken up for a while. This means as little contact as possible and of course, no begging, pleading and promising to make things better. Take some time off. It is what both of you need. If you do have to see each other because of unavoidable circumstances such as work or the kids, be friendly but do not get involved in any conversations that stray towards your past relationship.

Next, take this time off to focus on yourself. Stop thinking about your ex and how to win them back. Instead, think about how you can improve yourself both inside and out. If you’ve let yourself slide because of the relationship stresses, this is the time to put yourself back together. Make sure you are eating right and not drinking too much alcohol or abusing any other substances. You definitely want to be taking time out to exercise. Now that you are single, you have that time. Get involved in certain groups or volunteer programs. And make sure that you get out of the house with some friends every once in a while, even if you don’t feel like it. Finally, getting enough sleep is crucial to your health. People who don’t get enough tend to eat more and be overweight and look older.

What is the purpose of this type of free advice on how to get your ex back? It is all geared towards getting yourself back first. Chances are you’ve lost a little bit of that during your relationship struggles. Once you’ve re-established your self confidence and self esteem, you will be ready to once again approach your ex with the intention of getting back together. How long does it take? This also varies but generally you can tell when you’re ready because getting him/her back will suddenly not seem so extremely urgent.

Then and only then should you try to make contact with your ex. Invite him or her for coffee or something that doesn’t require too much time or commitment on either side. From here on is where the free advice on how to get your ex back will start to very again. But once you’ve gotten to this point, you may be able to rely on your own heart and new-found confidence to guide you through.

]]> http://alovelink.com/2010/03/get-your-ex-back/feed/ 0 The 2 / 3 Step You Need To Use http://alovelink.com/2009/03/the-2-3-step-you-need-to-use/ http://alovelink.com/2009/03/the-2-3-step-you-need-to-use/#comments Fri, 27 Mar 2009 20:51:29 +0000 Rob http://alovelink.com/?p=9 The song says “Breakin’ up is hard to do…” but I’ll tell you something even harder that you need to do.

Starting right now, this very moment…

End all contact with your (ex) girlfriend.

No phone calls.

No text messages.

No emails.

No contacting her friends to see what she’s doing, how she’s feeling.

No more smothering her (which might have just led to the current break-up, right?).

The 2/3 Step is what you need to do starting right now.

And what this means to you is NO contacting her, in any way, in any form, for the next 2 to 3 days.

If you give her this time to miss you, to realize how great her life is when you are in it, then you will get her back.

BUT, if you don’t… if you insist on knowing every little thing she does during the first 48 – 72 hours you are apart, then you will lose her forever!

The 2/3 Step is not only about contact though, life isn’t that simple is it?

If you have locations in common (classes, buses, buildings, etc.) then you have to give her space, 2 – 3 minutes head start, 2 – 3 minutes to be away from you… so that you do not smother her, so that she does not have to deal with you yet, not until she starts to MISS you.

Because until she starts to MISS you, she will NOT want you BACK.

Do you understand this?

Excellent.

So what are you going to do starting right now?

You’re going to give her those precious 2 – 3 steps to miss you.

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