There seems to be a common question that keeps coming up in the thoughts of guys who just went through a break up, or feel trapped in a relationship. That question is: will she love me again? The sad thing is that it doesn’t matter how you got to this point. The only thing that matters to you at this point is whether or not you can get her to love you again. You may be down, hurt, hopeless and confused, but you don’t have to be. Instead, you can take comfort in the fact that other men have been in the same situation and were able to get their woman to love them again.

The first thing you absolutely must do is take an honest look at what’s going on. This means you have to accept things as they are. If you have just broken up, don’t tell yourself the break up isn’t real; accept it. This is the first step in getting her back. Also, even though you are asking, “will she love me again”, there is a chance that you are misreading her signals and she really loves you anyway. What has she said or done to make you think she has fallen out of love? What real evidence do you have? See, you don’t want to expend your energies on something that isn’t a real problem.

Once you have determined that she doesn’t love you any more, or at least not as much as she used to, you have to give her some space. This means not contacting her in any way for a while. That includes no leaving notes, no late night telephone calls, no bumping in to her “accidentally”, and no emails or text messages. By trying to talk to her you run the risk of pushing her further away, so resist the temptation and giver her the time and space she needs for now.

Okay, you are off to a great start, but there’s still more you can do. As long as you are leaving her alone, you should use this time to try to put her out of your mind. This will only be temporary, but it’s important for you to have a clear head before moving forward. Pay attention to your needs. You may feel awful, but you still have to take care of yourself. Be sure to stay healthy, both physically and mentally.

The final step is to get to the root of went wrong. This is where you will find the clues to why she fell out of love with you. It may take some digging and won’t be easy to do, but it will be worth it in the long run. Once you identify what went wrong, you can start doing what you need to do to fix it. Stick with it, and give it time and sooner or later you will get a positive answer to the question of will she love me again.

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Do you really know why you broke up?

Many people, usually half of every couple, find themselves lost as they examine and re-examine their relationship, looking deep into the events that led up to their breakup, trying to make sense of it all.

The truth is that breakups hurt at least one person and sometimes both of you will feel the sting of the breakup because of the events that led up to your breaking up.

Breakups suck, really.

Breakups hurt and a lot of the time other family members and friends get caught in the breakup, being forced (or feeling forced) to pick a side and be a stronger friend or family member for one rather than the other.

And that sucks too.

It doesn’t matter (in the grand scheme of things) why you broke up, just that through the actions and/or unforgiving nature of the event and the couple that is breaking up that their future is forever changed and becomes a “what if” for the rest of their lives.

“What if’s” really suck.

Take some time, look back with nothing but love and get some advice. Maybe you’ll figure out where everything went horribly wrong and if you can’t make it right and get back together, then at least it will be a life lesson learned so that it doesn’t not happen again.

This topic and more is discussed in the Magic of Making Up ebook. Learn the right and wrong things to do to get your ex back here

Someone is always hurt in a breakup and it’s almost always hard to find the path to move forward.

When you can forgive, and end the shouting, you can repair your relationship, mend your heart and win your ex back.

Deciding how to get your ex back is going to involve learning humility for the both of you. Being selfish is what got your relationship in trouble at the beginning. You decided that what you wanted was more important than what you two had as a couple.

People do make mistakes. It is true that some mistakes are too big to overcome but most mistakes that people make in relationships are trivial. They are also made in the heat of the moment and often times can be exaggerated. Realize that it is easy for someone to say or do the wrong thing when they aren’t thinking clearly.

If you have had the wrong thing said or done to you, think of the events surrounding what did happen. What was going on around that time that made things as bad as what it got? Was there something going on in one of your lives outside of the relationship that brought unnecessary strain? If you can recognize what it was you have a chance to learn how to get your ex back.

If you had your pride and feelings hurt by the actions of another, can you forgive them? Can you suck back in your pride and realize that it was a mistake and what you had was greater than the incidents that drove you apart? Can you be willing to forgive it and let it go? You will have to learn how to do this if you want to know how to get your ex back.

If you hurt someone dear to you, you need to suck back in your pride as well. Realize that you made a mistake. Own it and take responsibility for your actions. If it is important to you to know how to get back your ex then you have to realize that there are things that you are going to have to correct in the way that you handle situations. If there is some problem or mistake that you keep making, get counseling or some kind of help. Don’t expect that you can continue to do the same thing over and over and expect different results.

Be able to approach each other with humility, not holding yourself up over the other person. Stop thinking that you are too big to come back and say, “I’m sorry.” When someone says to you that they are sorry don’t hold it over them and say, “Yeah, you should be.” Decide that what you have as a couple is more important than the problems that came and decide to work together as a team to overcome them. If you do this then you have found how to get your ex back.

This topic and more is discussed in the Magic of Making Up ebook. Learn the right and wrong things to do to get your ex back here