Every relationship has a natural life span. When you were a young student going out meant having a girlfriend for a few days and that was it. As we got older these life spans of relationships grew longer but there was always the chance that the life of the relationship ended, and me tried to move on from there.

Most of us will have only one great love, one love that meant everything to us, and it ended. I understand, and I want you to also understand, that this is a natural process of life and love.

In my case, my girlfriend and I were thinking about ratcheting up our relationship. Her lease was about to end, and she wanted to move into my apartment. As we were spending most of our time there anyway, it made sense from a financial perspective.

But there is something significant about having separate places. I know I lost love because I couldn’t handle her taking our relationship to this level. I guess the time span of our relationship was up because I wasn’t willing to become more committed.

Now, I know I handled the situation badly. I went to a friend’s bachelor party and let’s just say things got out of hand. Word about the wild antics at the party got back to my girlfriend, naturally, and she dumped me. I lost love over the events of one night.

But, when I think back on what really happened, the events of the bachelor party were really a reaction to our discussion of more commitment. I seriously don’t think I would have behaved the way I did if I really wanted her to move in. I lost love because I wasn’t ready for the direction it was taking.

I’m glad I had the chance to be in a relationship with my ex. But I don’t think she was the love of my life, my soul mate. Instead, she was someone with whom I genuinely enjoyed spending time. I loved her. I still love her. But, she is not the person with whom I see spending the rest of my life.

I went through a period of mourning the relationship and analyzing what went wrong. I really was hurt when she said she wanted to end things. Sure, I understood that I had hurt her. But, I didn’t want her to leave my life completely.

I guess what I wanted was for things to continue on the way they were. But, every relationship has to grow or die. Because I wasn’t willing to let it grow, it had to die. In every relationship, there is a time to die. And, for me, this was it. That’s how I lost love.

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Don’t be desperate

Don’t send expensive gifts

You’ve got to be prepared to do a lot more than that if you want her back, and she just might make you jump through hoops to get her back again.

You’ve hurt her feelings. You’ve hurt her pride. And you’ve got to be ready to handle whatever she throws at you.

Start with a sincere apology. From the heart. Actions speak louder than words too… so you’ve got to change your ways too.

Maybe you panicked when you saw the big “R” relationship heading your way. A lot of guys do panic, they do become scared about what their future holds for them with only one girl in their future “until death does you part”.

Your apology needs to explain your sudden reversal of what you thought you want and how it now all makes sense and that you are now understanding that you do really want her, and a relationship with her in it.

You were wrong to over react. You know that. be apologetic but don’t fall into the trap of becoming her doormat. Don’t let her take her frustrations out on you… the relationship you want so desperately back will bcome corrupted with this treatment from her as the new foundation of your relationship.

If she shares her true feelings with you, even though you dumped her you’ll have her back soon enough.

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