You have to pay attention to all the signs of health in your marriage to make sure your partnership is going strong. First, look at how often you have sex. While sex isn’t the whole point of the marriage—it’s much more important than just that—it’s a crucial part of a healthy marriage.

A marriage in crisis is usually pretty easy to spot by looking at your sex lives. Do you have sex infrequently? Is it a big, scheduled deal when you do have sex? Have you stopped having sex spontaneously just when you feel like it?

When sex becomes a scheduled activity, a marriage can certainly recover. In fact, most marriages go through a phase very much like that when a baby is born. Each child makes it more and more difficult to find the time to spend with our partner over a meal or before leaving for work, let alone finding a spare hour to make love.

But a marriage in crisis never breaks out of that pattern. Instead, even when the time is there the partners don’t have spontaneous sex. Usually there’s very little physical affection shown during the day either. People in love and happy to be together tend to hug and kiss different times through the day.

A loving couple will often touch each other just in passing. One will give the other a fast kiss on the cheek or forehead for no reason. Does this still happen in your marriage? Do you ever sneak a quick pinch or pat on the bottom or a sexy look in the middle of the day?

When these things start to disappear, it can be a sign that the marriage is in trouble. The other thing that goes in a very obvious way is common courtesy. When you say “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “please,” throughout your day to strangers more than you say them to your partner, something’s wrong.

We take our partners for granted in this way, and eventually this leads to a sort of coldness between people. There is simply no reason not to be affectionate and thank our partners (and say please) during the course of everyday life.

The good news is that if you’re seeing these warning signs, you can start working right now to correct them. And you don’t have to make a fanfare about it or announce the change. Simply change what you do.

Make a point of giving affection and unexpected kisses. Be very polite again, and say please and thank you, even when it’s just the two of you. Make time for making love. Do these things and your marriage in crisis could soon be back on track and you could be happier than ever.

The first thing you’ll want to do is to chase after your ex… this is a big mistake. If you’ve just broken up then your emotions are raw, the drama is playing over and over in your head. You need space from your ex at this time. Don’t drive them further away, don’t make the mistake of contacting them and promising anything to get them back. Allow yourself the space of cooling down, settling your emotions and not allowing communication with your ex (text, email, phone, IM, etc.)  to keeping your emotions stirred up.

While you are allowing yourself this time it’s a good idea to take care of yourself first, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to experience a few things as a single, just to keep yourself occupied for the short term. Even if it was something that you did that caused the breakup you need to remember that there is already a number one in your life, you! Stop sitting home night after night, alone, feeling sorry for yourself. To win back love you need to become the great person you were before.

Call up some old friends and have some fun with them and now is the time to do it!

Activity will keep you busy and too preoccupied to worry about your ex. This is a good thing, remember! Your self-esteem will be boosted and your self-confidence will soar. And this will impress your ex when you do finally have contact with them.

And start a regular exercise program. Renew that gym membership or simply start walking and taking the stairs when possible. Howe about a dance class or yoga? Win love back by exercising regularly. This also releases good endorphins which helps to boost positive feelings, energy and over-all health.

Anyone can get dumped. But not everyone knows the right way to win love back. But now you do!