Didn’t work, did it?

And now you feel even worse than just after the breakup, because it’s sinking in, he may not ever want you back.

Take a moments and look at yourself: what behaviors that are normal for you have changed because of this breakup? It’s time to stop these negative behaviors right now!

When you want your exboyfriend back the answer is in not following him wherever he goes, by asking friends constantly what he’s doing, “running” into him in places. This will seem that you are more like a stalker than a person he would want to date again.

When you want your exboyfriend back, the things you are doing now might be what is keeping him away.

Next time you end up in a place together, at the same time,, whether it’s a restaurant or a club, when you walk in and see him, do acknowledge him.  But instead of going up to him and occupying his attention, just say hello and go about your business in another part of the room, or explain that since he’s there, you’ll leave to make him more comfortable. Be nice and polite and simply go.  If nothing else, the change in your behavior will get him thinking positively about you again.

Doing what is unexpected of you, an attitude change, is what he needs to see to find his interest in you again. End all the phone calls and texts and emails to him, stop them right now.

If you have a good reason to call him, keep the conversation short and to the point. If he asks why you called, just tell him what you need and leave it at that. Apologize for the call and get off the phone quickly, even if doing so seems to break your heart all over again.

When there is a boyfriend you want back, you can’t smother him with attention and expect him to react positively towards you. He will be suspicious and resentful that you are bothering him more.

On the times that contact is made, just be nice, and to the point and get it over with. He’ll wonder where all your excited energy towards him went, and that’s a good thing. This calmness will help him to understand that you can be nice, open-minded and fair.

If you’re afraid to say the wrong thing to him, send him a card, “Just hoping you’re OK” or something like that. Keep the door open for extra communication, but don’t smother him.